dragonfly 101: Soul Lesson numero uno - wind shift

Soul Lesson (SL) of the day:

dragonfly isn't into playing games. nor is she into trying to coax people into doing what they should be doing. maybe i'll coax a child (for a minute, prior to the beating - just kidding), but not an adult. never an adult. adults need to make their own decisions, right or wrong, good or bad. and i'm not one to do too much influencing in either direction.

so "hypothetically" speaking, if i notice that communication between me and a guy has waned for some reason, being the intuitive person that i am, i'll of course attempt to understand the problem.

i'll ask you questions.

i'll try to find out if something is wrong; did i do something to hurt or bother you, etc.

i may even attempt to uncover the problem a few times.

but if you keep telling me nothing's wrong, i'm trippin' for nothing, you're "cool," i'm going to stop asking, though i can CLEARLY see you're not "cool." and i know you're not "cool" because you used to talk to me/want to see me all the time. now you're barely able to be found, and all of a sudden you're too busy, you're too tired, you're too this, you're too that.

i'm not paranoid, but i'm darn perceptive. i can see when the winds have shifted. i can discern when someone's demeanor has totally changed.

so i'll give you a few chances to fess up to whatever the deal is. i'll be concerned, initially.
i'll ask questions, initially. heck, i'll even care...initially.

but...

after the initial attempts have returned nada on my investment, i'm done being concerned, asking or caring. and since you act like you want your distance, i'll give it to ya. be "cool" all by your cool little self.

peace be with you.

now all of a sudden because dragonfly has thrown in her towel, has turned the page, has given you the rest you obviously needed since you are suddenly "so tired" from work and all these other things, NOW suddenly the questions are being asked of dragonfly.

the roles are reversed. the script has officially been flipped.

and you're asking ME, "where are you?"

"where have you been?"

"what, you don't time for me anymore?"

"why are you acting like you don't miss me?"

do me this one solid - come closer. closer.

now listen carefully.

DON'T. EVEN. TRY. IT!!

you acted like you wanted space. so i gave it. hey, i give the people what they want.

now get out of my space. and face. thanking you so very much.

this is not a show of arrogance, unforgiveness or hard-heartedness. it's a show of how precious time is and how little of it i need to waste on stupidity.

and by the way, this lesson does not only apply to guys in the dating pool - it applies to platonic friendships as well, male and female.

if you have a problem, speak your piece or forever hold your peace. cuz i'm not asking but so many times.

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